Let's kick it up a bit

When I have more time on my hands than I should, that's when I take a few minutes to post more 'spillings'. In my current situation, having too much time on my hands is a problem. So, my thoughts trend towards the negative.

Today's no different, but I want to be more upbeat. Despite my general observations that most web and other such postings are not honest, but said to be interpreted as positive or humorous comment. I do feel that many of us will say what we mean without ulterior motives. It's just that we won't, or don't, say what other thoughts or concerns we have because of the implication, either intended or unintended, that we're not completely who we'd like to be.

Commiserating, like Bunko, leads to an acceptance of what the dominating personality has determined. What if we allowed our thoughts of contentment, our satisfaction in how we cope with reality, and our pleasure in the delights of family, friends, and nature were allowed to be the focus of our discussions. I've been told that sarcasm is a tool of the devil and apparently, he's taught me well that it's an easy tool to get a laugh. I feel good about myself when I make others laugh. But why not feel good about ourselves when we encourage the true discussion about anything, but our self.

Dale Carnegie did a marvelous job in "How to Win Friends and Influence People" to teach us that life around us generally goes undiscovered because we focus too much on 'our life'. How much better of a person I'd be and how greater an appreciation of life and others I would have, if, during conversations with one or more, my mind was not thinking about what I wanted to say next, but what I may 'ask' next in order to learn and understand even more about those who I have had the privilege to spend a few moments with. Why do I feel that its my contribution to the conversation that has made it an enjoyable time for all? Ego! From one who keeps telling himself that he doesn't really have much of an ego. That my best and most noticeable trait is that "I'm a nice guy." Ironic, isn't it?!